Step 5: Make your goals personal
by Dr. Jacob Mathew,
We had been discussing goal setting.
If you had been following the process with us, each of us should have a goal that is realistic.
We may need to fine-tune our goals to ensure that we will be able to keep them for the rest of our lives.
Last week we said the goals have to be realistic. This week, we will discuss, another important attribute of the goal.
Step 5 Make your goals
I can probably set a goal for each of you based on what you said while signing up or asking you a few questions. Similarly, your other diet buddies can tell you what your goals "should be."
Unfortunately, that won't do you any good. It will be their goals; not yours.
You cannot delegate this task to someone else. You need to do it your self. That is why we are taking this time-consuming approach to train you so you can arrive at your own goals. It is only yours; no one else's. it is something you have to be comfortable with. You have to be convinced that it is realistic. And that if you accomplish the goals, it will make significant improvement to your health and life - something you can be excited about.
In her book Judy Molnar says:
"Be honest about what you want. I tried to follow the Oprah way of going after a marathon. I was going after her dreams and goals, doing it her way, not mine. When I started doing the exercises I liked, I was led to doing triathlons."
Triathlons, obviously is not for everyone. It may be jogging and ultimately going for marathons for you. It could be becoming a swimming champion; or cross country running,... etc. The choices are endless. The path chosen by you must keep you interested and motivated day in and day out. So, take some time to plan your future. It will be well worth it.
So, don't let your goals be dependent on someone else. Their failure then becomes your failure, your excuse.